What keeps us stuck in business and in life?
When we peel back the layers of what may be keeping us stuck, there is typically a FEAR there lurking in the shadows and underlying our behavior and belief patterns.
In my coaching work I typically see three categories of fear:
Do you recognize any of these fears?
A powerful question I’ve found myself asking clients recently:
What if you gave yourself permission to be playful?
There has typically been a long pause and then an outpouring of everything that might be possible for the client.
The interesting angle of this question is two-fold.
I recently lead a laughter yoga workshop at the local library for their community wellness series. It was a multi-generational group of people and we had a lot of fun laughing and connecting with one another. Because let's face it - laughter is powerful!
There was one older gentleman that seemed to be getting a kick out of the whole process and enjoying the laughter and the energy of the group. He approached me at the end while we were stacking chairs to say how much he appreciated the workshop.
“Make your best life a priority!”
This is the rallying cry for my coaching business and I sometimes get the question:
What does “your best life” mean?
My answer: It means different things for different people as we all have our own individual hopes, dreams, preferences and desires.
It means something different for me than it does for you, I’m sure.
Financial debt filters over into every area of our lives. It affects our health, our mood, our motivational drive - and can permeate every moment of the day. So how does money coaching for those in debt work?
It’s the beginning of a new year and with it comes a clean slate and the opportunity to create and live your best life in 2018. It’s the traditional “goal-setting” time of the year.
Unfortunately - according to the US News - statistics show that 80% fall off of the proverbial goal bandwagon by the second week of February.
So how do you avoid becoming a statistic? Last year I read a very helpful article by Martha Beck on this very issue where she recommends assembling a “Fellowship of the Resolution.” She offers great insight into why folks abandon their New Year’s resolutions and she shares a wonderful solution in terms of developing a support network. Check it out here!
Now that you understand the reality behind the statistics, let’s work on setting your big, audacious goals - and set systems in place to keep you on the accomplishment track!
As the autumn leaves change to brilliant shades of orange, yellow, rust and red before falling to the ground in preparation for the cold winter air so does the soul journey inward shedding layers of doubt, insecurity, shame, guilt and fear as it dives deeper.
And in the same way the buds of spring bring new life and color, so does the soul emerge with the brightness of joy, playfulness, creativity, wonder and awe. Once the old beliefs and patterns are shed, the new can begin.
Taking small, consistent action creates big, lasting change.
Staying in the flow and staying in constant movement and motion enables us to accomplish big goals in our lives and in our businesses.
Take a look at the power of water. The constant motion and consistent movement of water has incredible power to carve and create ever shifting landscapes.
The other day I was sitting at my desk deep in concentration on a project when a rustling sound entered into my awareness - a consistent rustling coming from inside the house.
Full disclosure: I do live in the desert and have had mice in my space over the years and even the occasional woodrat has breached the premises. I am NOT a fan and usually need to get outside help and support when these creatures appear.
So - needless to say my concentration was shot and my eyes were pulled directly to the corner that was the source of the rustling. It was persistent. And loud. My mind went towards thinking it must be larger than a mouse. I moved from my desk chair into my bedroom to hide and escape. I did NOT want to deal with this or face it.
Recently I met with three different girlfriends over the course of the week - a Sunday brunch with a coaching friend, a Tuesday dinner with a Maui girlfriend and Thursday dinner and cocktails with another lovely female friend.
During these intimate conversations, all three women shared their vulnerability with an honest, open heart. There were tears and there was laughter. Because, let’s face it, the challenges we women face on a daily, weekly, monthly basis are real.