What keeps us stuck in business and in life?
When we peel back the layers of what may be keeping us stuck, there is typically a FEAR there lurking in the shadows and underlying our behavior and belief patterns.
In my coaching work I typically see three categories of fear:
Do you recognize any of these fears?
A powerful question I’ve found myself asking clients recently:
What if you gave yourself permission to be playful?
There has typically been a long pause and then an outpouring of everything that might be possible for the client.
The interesting angle of this question is two-fold.
As the autumn leaves change to brilliant shades of orange, yellow, rust and red before falling to the ground in preparation for the cold winter air so does the soul journey inward shedding layers of doubt, insecurity, shame, guilt and fear as it dives deeper.
And in the same way the buds of spring bring new life and color, so does the soul emerge with the brightness of joy, playfulness, creativity, wonder and awe. Once the old beliefs and patterns are shed, the new can begin.
The other day I was sitting at my desk deep in concentration on a project when a rustling sound entered into my awareness - a consistent rustling coming from inside the house.
Full disclosure: I do live in the desert and have had mice in my space over the years and even the occasional woodrat has breached the premises. I am NOT a fan and usually need to get outside help and support when these creatures appear.
So - needless to say my concentration was shot and my eyes were pulled directly to the corner that was the source of the rustling. It was persistent. And loud. My mind went towards thinking it must be larger than a mouse. I moved from my desk chair into my bedroom to hide and escape. I did NOT want to deal with this or face it.
Often as we age and “grow up” we embrace a sense of inhibition and surround ourselves by rules and fear. We build an understanding that we must think/act/show up in a certain way. We let societal pressures and other’s perceptions build these walls for us until we are hemmed in and have lost our own individual power. We lose our ability to participate in the wonder-full richness of life. We become afraid of new beginnings, new ideas and new perspectives. We are content to stay “stuck” in our comfort zone - imagining a myriad of dreams - but in an “if only” sense.